Jaisen (father of Joshua)
Having worked with Emerging Minds in the past, I felt that this was a great opportunity to explore co-design and co-delivery in a safe and engaging environment. There’s something special in the way that a team can come together from different experiences and put together a workshop that is informative for the audience and satisfying and empowering for the family contributors.
Working with my son, Joshua, on this project meant that it gave us a project to work on together and spend time bonding over that period. Also, we got to discuss things that perhaps had been discussed before but had no application; or brought up things that had not been discussed but were healthy and relevant to the topic.
Working with Joshua was a chance to share experiences and learn from one another; and having that ear to bounce ideas off was another aspect that did not go unnoticed. Forming ideas and brainstorming was a great way to pinpoint ways in which we could apply these experiences to the project at hand.
I believe that this project only added to the strong connection I have with Joshua; it was a way of bonding and sharing, and these experiences are always welcome. Getting insight from your children is always enlightening and well worth the effort.
Doing this work is a wonderful experience, and one which I can utilise the best with support from my family. We are a tight-knit unit here, and everyone is always excited to learn when I have an Emerging Minds project to work on. Having been able to utilise our experiences to inform different projects is one of the positive drivers in doing the work. The children particularly enjoy giving their opinions and although most of them were too young to participate in this particular project, they have expressed their interest in future ones.
As my family is diverse in representing several areas including experiences in mental health, LGBTIQA+, living in adverse conditions and living in a regional area, we are all onboard to support one another and this project was no different.
As always, it’s difficult to leave the family behind when I travel, however this is only a small part of the project and there are benefits to dad going away to Adelaide or Melbourne. These include little trinkets and a reassurance that I will return with Krispy Kreme donuts.
I can honestly say that this project was well worth the time and effort, the preparation, the Zoom meetings, the flights, the workshop… It gave me a sense of accomplishment and hope. It is always nice to receive renumeration, but a lot of the value to me comes through knowing that the information, experiences, and knowledge that I possess are useful to someone.
Joshua (son of Jaisen)
I said yes to doing this work as I thought it would be a good opportunity to understand where the experts were sitting, what their perspectives were, how they approach these problems, and how that might differ to the perspective of the client/family.
Dad and I have often worked together before, so we’ve got pretty good chemistry. I get along really well with Dad, so I found the work fun and fulfilling. There weren’t any negative or unintended consequences.
I didn’t find it hard working with Dad; if anything it was probably a bit of a confidence booster to know that he was in the room with me, that I would be taken seriously and that there was someone on my side.
During the workshop I definitely felt safe and valued. I felt like the people in the room were open and seriously considering everything that was being said; everyone was there to listen and learn from each other. I had a lot of people approach me during the workshop and ask questions to try to get to know my thoughts and opinions on all sorts of things. I felt like I could always ask them questions too. There were people there who I was curious about; when I asked them about their work, they were eager to share their knowledge and experience with me.
Thinking about my family members who weren’t involved in the workshop and implications for them, I couldn’t say for sure but I do a lot of jobs at home to help, so me not being there to do that might have put more work on Mum and my older sibling. That’s the only impact I can think of.
I think that doing family participation gives family members the time and environment to discuss things that might have otherwise been awkward. Dad was there as a confidence booster. If it was just me on my own I might not have been taken as seriously, but having my Dad there who knows me well made me feel confident.
The other benefit of family participation was that the people at the workshop got to see Dad and I working together as part of a family, not just as separate people.
The process was definitely worth it. I was very pleased to have the opportunity to talk with professionals and understand processes and concerns that seem very far away from where I am as a layperson.